The Love ‘n Light Net

The other day I was driving with my 18-year-old daughter, and she started laughing loudly after something I said.  I asked her why she was laughing.

Her reply was, “I just had an epiphany.”

Wow!  I told her I was impressed with her knowledge of that word, that she actually used it in conversation, to which she replied that I must think she’s “dumb”.

Of course I told her, “Not true!  I just think you’re at a point in life when you at times exhibits amazing big-girl wisdom and maturity, while at other times you still revert to a little-girl’s type of behavior, like when you scream at me for something I’ve said or done.”

As my daughter exited the car her final words were, “That’s not being a big girl and a little girl; that’s being a smart girl and an angry girl.”

On my way home I realized that I had just been handed another nugget of wisdom.  Why isn’t it OK to be both smart AND angry?  And what’s wrong with being angry anyway?  When my daughter expresses her anger she’s letting off steam so she can be done with the related issue, unlike those “adults” among us who may not be quite so loud but who stew in it and in some cases hold on to a grudge for an entire lifetime.  It’s also her way of reminding herself that she’s just given her power away and now she’s taking it back.

Yes, it’s often uncomfortabe to be on the receiving end of those screams of hers, but usually there’s some lesson in it for me, some “mis-take” I need to acknowledge and learn from.  Other times it’s an opportunity for me to be in the presence of the emotions of another without taking them on myself.  And if I detect the presence of a feeling of guilt, well, perhaps there’s some old limiting belief I possess that’s ready for clearing, which she has just given me the chance to notice and do.

I guess we both had an epiphany that day.

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I’ve been working a lot with intention lately, which used to be known as commitment.  One of the neat things about intention is that it can be applied to everything from the most grandiose goals to the smallest tasks (which add up to the grandiose goals).  Another is that it’s so simple.  No fancy techniques to learn or words to memorize.  The trick is to make sure your energy is in alignment with your intention, which requires your subconscious to be, too.

I’m reprinting here the Continuous Cleansing Prayer from Immunics as a way to get you started with intention (or boost whatever you’ve been doing up to now).  To learn more about the Immunics process (as simple as intention itself) to boost the power of this prayer and any other intentions you set, contact me through this site and/or go to Immunics.org.  I can offer you other simple yet powerful processes as well.  Happy intending!

Continuous Cleansing
(the all level immunity prayer)
The prayer isn’t something you say — it’s something you do. When I get the signal:

• All my bodies are free of pathology.
• All my bodies are free of immune dysfunction.
• All my bodies are at full function.
• I’m bringing my immune system up to twice the level it needs to be at to handle
the toughest challenge I will face today.
• I’ve installed all necessary immunological shields.
• I’m attracting remedies and antidotes to dysfunction.
• I’m leaving behind everything that slows me down.
• All my God connectors are in.
• I’m installing the reflex to give love and empowerment.
• I am attracting warm, happy feelings in others.
• I’m merging my results bodies with _____ (people you choose – remove and
install the right factors).
• I’ve installed discrimination between things (people, activities, and locations)
that win and ones that don’t, a reflex to drop the ones that don’t even when I’m
succeeding with them and a reflex to do the ones that do even when I’m a
beginner at them.
• I’m attracting powerful, benevolent allies.
• I’m on the best side of my highest possible dimension.
• I’m removing all disturbances from the emotional bodies of everyone in the
world.
• I’m protecting myself and my people from incipient catastrophes.
• I’m realizing the loving, world shaping, and God given intentions I’ve carried
from life to life.
• I’m causing my career and those of the people I love to be what God intends.
• I am attracting increased capacity in myself and my group to accept power
infusion.
• My particle attributes are in balance and at full strength to succeed at God’s
work.
• All my bodies are in God.
• All my bodies are one rainbow.
• I am free.

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In my type of work, spiritual coaching and healing, I have to be aware of and address many core beliefs that people hold, especially the ones that tend to limit them in some way, like by creating disease or emotional suffering.

So the experience – or perception – of betrayal is something I come across a lot.

I’ve always thought that betrayal is about a violation of trust. You trust someone to give you love, to be there for you, to look out for you, to be loyal to you, and then suddenly they stop doing it. Voila, you’ve been betrayed.

To heal this perception requires understanding that there was actually a deficiency of trust in the first place, not of the person who betrayed you, but rather of yourself, which manifests as (rather than being created by) someone else pulling the rug out from under you. Another case of “It’s all done with mirrors.”

Recently, however, I came across another definition of betrayal, which really made me stop and think, and that for me has brought the kind of depth to working with this issue that invariably leads to spiritual growth – for my clients and myself.  So I’ve decided to share it with you.

The new definition is this:

A person betrays when s/he refuses to accept a gift.

Like you (I imagine) I had to stop and re-read it and think about it. A person betrays me, not if s/he refuse to GIVE me what I want, but rather and ONLY if s/he REFUSES what I choose to give him/her.

Kind of mind-boggling (and counter-intuitive), isn’t it?

If this is true, then WHY is it true? And how do I now think about the other acts – the ones I’ve been calling betrayal?

Here’s what I’ve come to. Please remember – as always – that whatever I say is true for me, and not necessarily true for you. Take what you like and leave the rest. And feel free to leave your comments below with your own truths!

In the definition given above are embedded several fundamental Truths.  (I’ve capitalized the word here because I believe these are spiritual laws.)

1. The universe is made of love.  And God/Goddess – Spirit – Universal Consciousness or Source (whatever name works for you) wants us – as extensions of itself – to experience this love all the time.

2. We cannot destroy or diminish this Divine love in any way.  We can, however, because we have free will, impede its flow, by forgetting that we are made of it and have access to it in infinite supply or in some other way convincing ourselves of the opposite of this.

3. We have everything we need at all times (this is probably a corollary of 2.)  To believe otherwise – like that we have lost something essential – is to believe in an illusion, albeit a powerful one.

So…

If no one can take anything away from us, because in Reality we always have everything we need, then no one can betray us by taking anything away from us.  (Remember, we’re speaking spiritually here, and spiritual needs are at the root of all others.) We remain connected to one another and to the Source of all our good ALWAYS.  As eternal threads in the Divine tapestry of life, light and love, no one and nothing is ever really gone or destroyed.

So, what DOES constitute betrayal?

Well, if Spirit wants us to accept the greatest gift of all – Divine Love – of which all others gifts are extensions and reflections, then a giver is doing God’s will, and so is the receiver, since to receive is an equally important experience that Spirit wishes to have through us.  Therefore, to refuse a gift is to deny and betray ourselves, the giver and Spirit itself – since in Reality we are all One – by impeding the flow of Love.

You may find this definition challenging.  Take your time in working with it; feel the emotions that come up; allow yourself to work with and gently release the judgments and imprints you may have about what I have written here.  I believe it will be well worth your while because this new way of looking at betrayal can empower you, set you free and help you open to receive Love in unending supply .

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Recently a lot of information – and synchronicities – have been showing up for me indicating that 1) my most difficult experiences had been contracted with my own and others’ souls before this lifetime, and 2) that I am to help others understand how this plays out in their own lives.

In case this idea is new to you, I’ve provided a link at the end of this post to an article about soul contracts (the kind having to do with relationships, although there can be many others).  And, if this idea resonates with you – brings up insights, feelings, questions – please post your comments below (rather than emailing to me directly, so that others may benefit as well).  Remember to post your comments and/or sign up for your free classes in my telecourse BEFORE clicking on the link (and leaving this page).

If we think of life as a game, then the objective, it seems to me, is to learn the lesson and experience the growth from our life events as quickly as possible to end (or avoid) our suffering and become better, more loving and more powerful creators.

So, being bound and determined to win this game, these days I’m analyzing my experiences and learning my life lessons with a full heart and at warp speed.  And in case you’d like to dive into this work yourself, here are some of the questions I ask my Higher Self.

Is this discomfort chronic or a one-time/temporary/unrelated incident?

Do I have a prior, soul-driven agreement to experience this?

[If it involves another person] Did we make this agreement together?

This allows me to thank them at the end when I’ve gotten the lesson and let go of the emotional attachment to the suffering, as hard as that is to imagine when I’m in the midst of it.

Now for the lesson-learning part…

What spiritual quality is involved in my experience?  Is it blocked – perhaps by a belief – or deficient (for whatever reason)?

There are many qualities to consider – it could be love and connectedness, freedom, goodness, power, humility, responsibility, integrity, trust, safety, etc., etc.

If I absolutely knew it to be true, what knowing would end the pain and conclude the lesson (with an A+)? [This must be about you, NOT about someone else.]

Here are some examples to get you started:

• I’m a magnificent, Divine being.
• I have everything I really need right now.
• God/Goddess/Spirit loves me.
• Life is eternal.
• I planned well, and my rewards are coming.
• I’m safe from harm.

If I’m not ready to accept that, what COULD I accept as a first step?

Examples:

• I’m growing stronger with each passing day.
• I have many blessings in my life.
• There are people who love and value me.

Now spend a few moments breathing in the knowing and releasing the judgments that have gotten in its way up to this point.  Feel the peace.  Feel the bliss.

Finally, offer gratitude to whoever has helped you learn this lesson for the agreement they made with you so long ago.

Until next time, love yourself unconditionally and never stop!

article on soul relationships

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I wish to offer you a poem by May Sarton . For me this poem is as much a timely spiritual prophecy as it is a statement of great personal comfort. May it warm your heart as much as it does mine.

Of Molluscs

As the tide rises, the closed mollusc

Opens a fraction to the ocean’s food,

Bathed in its riches. Do not ask

What force would do, or if force could.

A knife is of no use against a fortress.

You might break it to pieces as gulls do.

No, only the rising tide and its slow progress

Opens the shell. Lovers, I tell you true.

You who have held yourselves closed hard

Against warm sun and wind, shelled up in fears

And hostile to a touch or tender word -

The ocean rises, salt as unshed tears.

Now you are floated on this gentle flood

That cannot force or be forced, welcome food

Salt as your tears, the rich ocean’s blood,

Eat, rest, be nourished on the tide of love.

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Continuing with my musings on ways to understand and process our emotions, today it occurred to me that I’ve got some conflicting thoughts on what to do with emotional pain, and that writing about them and hearing your thoughts as well (please comment below) could help me resolve them.

So here’s the dilemma….

On the one hand I believe that my feelings – no matter what anyone (apparently) does or says to me – are 99% about me – my cellular memories, beliefs and imprints, my karma and current stage of spiritual evolution, and my soul’s plans for me – all of which created the experience in the first place as a way of helping me learn and grow. And that, therefore, it’s up to me to address the hurt within myself. In other words, no one can fix for me what was created within me.

On the other hand I believe that the relationship aspect is important to – that total honesty, including about all our feelings, is critical to relationships, that our experiences are CO-creations that develop through social interaction, and that feedback and compassionate response can be critical factors when it comes to noticing our effect on the world (in order to become more effective in the ways we consciously choose to be) as well as recognizing and healing our triggers.

After all, we do have the ability to communicate for a reason.

So here are the questions:

Could we heal and evolve in isolation?

Is talking about a hurt – even sometimes to the point of screaming or crying to someone else – a necessary element of the alchemy of transformation or is it much less helpful than heretofore believed?

Can even blame become a path to growth if responded to in a way that helps the one doing it shift the perspective and reclaim their power and the one committing the perceived offense become more aware, emotionally skilled and compassionate?

Or put another way: Is there anything that is better left unsaid?

I invite your comments.

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As some of my readers know, one of the healing modalities I practice and teach is The Healing Codes. (There’s a link to learn more about this at the bottom of this post.)

Recently someone who purchased the Healing Codes wrote to Tom Costello (the lead coach/practitioner and main support for the rest of us) about his experience with his package (which he was not happy about as you’ll read below). I thought Tom’s response was enlightening and valuable enough to share, which he has given me permission to do.

(It’s interesting to note that anger is the theme of my last post as well. I certainly believe it’s a big part of our current experience on planet Earth, so we could all do with more understanding about how to master it – and transmute it into its higher vibration sister: personal power.)

The unhappy client wrote:

Tried it religiously for 1 year..no change..another simplistic new age rip off..

Try reality & common sense for a change… it works surprisingly.

And Tom answered:

Thank you for your testimonial. You probably didn’t realize you were giving a testimonial so I will explain what I mean.

I checked our records and notice that we ‘gifted’ the Healing Codes package to you in March 2006. You paid for shipping. You have given evidence that we acted generously, compassionately and charitably to you when you asked us to help you. That is obviously not much of a ‘rip off.’ I interpret my willingness to respond to your email as an act of generosity and continued caring for your healing.

You say there was ‘no change’ so let me talk about the ideas of change, progress, and improvement. This is an area that is often misunderstood. Consider this image: a 10 rung ladder with each step of the ladder representing an different emotional state. The bottom rung would be labeled “Shame” and that is the least effective state (rung) to be stuck in (standing on). Next step up is Apathy. This is where we find depressed people. Next up is Grief where people are stuck in the disappointment of some loss or abandonment. Next up is Fear. This is the negative anticipation that more grief and pain will be coming. Next rung up the ladder of Emo-States is Lust. Lust means craving. This is where we find addictions, compulsions, etc. Next step up is Anger which I call the emotion of ‘Stop!’ It can be powerful if used appropriately. Next step up is Pride which is useful if it gives good feelings about oneself but less valuable if used to put down (intending to drive someone else down the ladder or to lessen them in some way). The top three and most positive rungs of this ‘ladder’ are labeled Courageousness, Acceptance, and Peace. They are the most positive emo-states.

Here is how to view the emo-states: each Emo-State is more effective than the Emo-States below it. Each Emo-State is less effective than the ones above it. In other words, you will be more effective as you ‘climb this ladder of emotional states.’ Your view of the world, yourself, and opportunities and even God change based on the Emo-State you are in. It is easy to imagine that a person can literally see more from a higher rung than from a lower rung of a ladder. The same is true with emotional states.

I recommend that a person measure progress by their climb up this ladder because it is easier to recognize. You also can imagine as you consider the Emo-States that the stress decreases as you go up from Shame ….. to …… Peace. As that stress decreases, your body is better able to repair itself. In the lower states you remain in “fight or flight” and this disempowers the immune system, ability to think and reason, etc.

So let’s consider the possibility of your progress up this ladder of Emo-States. What state were you in when you asked us for help getting the Healing Codes package? Unless you were scamming us, you weren’t able to pay for the package, you needed help dealing with some ‘issues of the heart’ that resulted in physical problems, and you were probably feeling like a ‘victim to your circumstances.’

Eleven months later you are writing an email from the Emo-States of Anger and Pride. I would say that is great progress! Congratulations! Anger, blame, name calling are usually not seen as good things but when you consider where you have been they could be big improvements. Pride in yourself is good and the first major step in this area is belittling someone else, looking down your nose at someone else. Again, it is possible to be insulted by someone who wrote this email unless one is aware of Emo-States. All our capabilities are determined by our perception of self and life and the Emo-States directly indicate those perceptions.

If you are seeking physical healing I would say that you are getting closer to facilitating your body doing just that. Reach for Courageousness. Courageousness is the feeling we had as young boys. It is the feeling of excitement, discovery, adventure, fun at finding out what happens next. Men are natural explorers, natural discoverers. Make a game of your explorations. Lighten up. Get into it as a game. You will help your body immensely.

Good luck on your journey and thanks again for taking the time to write your testimonial. I will make sure your Coach knows of your progress.

Tom

To learn more about The Healing Codes, go to http://www.thehealingcodes.com

To let me know your thoughts, leave a comment!

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I recently heard from a woman who, in addition to being a good friend of mine, is also a serious student of spiritual and energetic healing, and has worked with me many times over the years. Over the course of a few days recently she raised some questions about the process she was going through and I answered in an exchange of emails.

I thought others might benefit from reading our exchange and she graciously agreed to let me publish it. For the sake of her privacy I’m referring to her by the initials FC.

May you find it interesting, encouraging and valuable in your own healing process!

FC wrote:

I “almost” called you yesterday to run something by you…
Have gotten in touch with some rage as of late (and better late than never).
Even though it is extremely unpleasant, I sense that I must honor its force (how does one “honor” a tsunami?) because it brings valuable information albeit in a dramatic way. My question is about discerning how long to honor it. There is a concern that if I let go too soon, I might forget or overlook the information it brings. On the other hand, if I hold onto to it too long, it can do damage to me physically and emotionally. Any thoughts or opinions…?

Reply from me:

On rage -
What damages is the suppression or EXpression of it (the latter meaning acting on it), NOT feeling it fully. So don’t worry about the time.
Think of yourself as a tsunami and expand (be the wave) by breathing into your solar plexus – you may also use your voice and your limbs (in a safe way).
Eventually (and it usually doesn’t take that long) one of two things – maybe both – will happen:
1) the anger will dissipate as you begin to feel much bigger than the injustice committed against you, and/or
2) you’ll get in touch with the belief about yourself that created the anger and have something to work on clearing/shifting (with EFT, Healing Codes, whatever).
The whole process can actually feel quite liberating.

FC:

I must be doing something right because I’ve experienced both of the outcomes you mentioned by staying with the tsunami. However, I take “exception” to the word injustice in the singular; for the wave to be so large its origin was traced to multiple injustices over many years. Although the initial injustice may have been the most damaging, the subsequent ones only seemed to deepen the original wound, so to speak.

And so it is hard for me to feel that I am larger than the injustices. Also, I have a Christ complex, for lack of a better word. I often feel that I have taken on a level of pain very deeply so that others may be spared on some level. I think you know me well enough to realize this is not coming from a place of ego. It may just be that this belief emerged along the way to help me tolerate my particular circumstances, that by dedicating it to a higher purpose rather than an orgy of self-pity, I was in fact transmuting the pain….

Of course I believe that with the current changes on the planet, we, as a species no longer require suffering as a learning tool. If that is the case, why am I still “doing” suffering? Perhaps(answering my own question), I am near the end of this wave and feel pulled strongly by the outgoing tide. And the good news, if there is any, is that I have progressed to suffering/struggling mindfully.

Yours for the greater good,

Me:

I hear you and understand about the “Christ complex” as you call it.
As we are all powerful creators, whatever you believe about where you are with it IS true for you! Once you have a new belief, the experience will change. Your soul really does want you to feel great, which requires changing some beliefs.
Today I realized that I still had a belief that I deserve punishment (because several things have happened that have felt like that).
So I decided to install the new belief that I am done with punishment. I just held the intention until my subconscious aligned itself with the new belief and gave me a confirming signal). Lo and behold a lot of the lower emotions disappeared. You might want to try the equivalent of that for yourself.

I’ll talk with you again soon.

Love and light,

Ellen

P.S. I’ll be very happy to read your comments!

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I have decided to take the plunge into the world of blogging, and I know the first question anyone reading this will ask is Why?

Although I realize it’s conventional to answer with all the wonderful things I and my great knowledge can do for you, my honest answer – pure, simple and unashamed – is because writing and communicating with my readers makes me happy and helps me feel loved. It does that by joining me, the writer, in a state of love with you, the reader.

Interesting, isn’t it, that to feel love I need to give it? But to give something I have to have it myself. So there, dear reader, in a nutshell, is the paradox, the mystery of love.

The truth, as I have “grocked” it, is that Love is not a thing to be passed around at all, but rather a field of substance to and through which we are all inexorably linked. Unlimited, all-pervasive, always accessible. And bathing in this pool has no requirements or conditions. Like air it’s free and there for the breathing (or the swimming to mix metaphors).

And like air, I’m most conscious of it when I make the effort to breathe deeply and consciously, with uninhibited enjoyment, creating my own state of bliss, feeling the love in my heart with each breath. According to sacred geometry and the physics of waves (of which everything, including ourselves, is made), focus on an idea enables its corresponding wave to accumulate charge (or power) and take on stability, in effect becoming manifest as an actual thing (matter) in the world.

So today I’m loving myself, fully, completely, without guilt or inhibition, and unconditionally. And as I do I’m sending some of this love’s deliciousness to you.

By the way, in case you’re still wondering, that’s exactly what I can do for you – and what I’m really good at and why you’ll want to come back to this page to read more of what I write. Loving you, just as you are, right now and inspiring you to love yourself.

And if you’d like to assure yourself of a regular supply of this love and these teachings, check out my telecourse, Healing the Past, Removing the Limits. In the spirit of unconditional love, you can try out a two-week membership, at any time, for free. Just get in “touch” with me – and isn’t touch a way of expressing love? – to start the process….

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I’m Ellen Kratka, founder of Sacred Spiral Services, and The Love ‘n Light Net is my Neverland – a kind of fountain of youth for women (and the men who love them) who have too much to live for to ever grow old, at least not in the ways that people tend to age in our society. Here I can speak my truth, relax, create, play and know that I’m loved. Here I know that I will never be useless, disempowered, unwanted or devalued. Here my body is my temple and glows with beauty, my mind is sharp and full of inspiration, my actions flow from soulful purpose, and the wise elder in my heart is always present for myself and all who come to me for healing and support. Now that you’ve discovered this site, it can be your Neverland, too, because… THAT’S WHY I DESIGNED IT! Do come back often to see what’s new. (And you can read more about me on the About Me page.) Here’s what you’ll find on this site:

• Insights and discoveries – both scientific and spiritual – that can enrich all our lives and keep us young.
• Ideas on how to love one another – including our dear Mother Earth in whose bounty we all share – and play well together.
• Ways to actually reverse aging and stay young in heart, mind and body, including my masterpiece, the Timeless Beauty, Fearless Life program.
• Easy, quick and powerful techniques to clear limiting beliefs and old programming that no longer serve you and create dis-ease and degeneration. Be sure to check out my ongoing live telecourse – Heal Your Past, Remove All Limits – which is all about this.
• Lots of FREE stuff – like my monthly Secrets of Soul Success teleclass, the Sacred Sharings ezine, ebooks and articles.
• A community of like-minded souls.
• Fun and laughter. Be sure to look at the En-lighten Up page.
• And, first and foremost, Unconditional Love for you, just as you are right now.

Just for visiting, you’re entitled to the gift of two FREE classes in my monthly live teleseries "Secrets of Soulful Success". See the link on the right of the page. And I’ll see you back here soon!

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